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Barely Legal Teen
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Barely Legal
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The night before I (20enby) turned 18 I went on grinder, and found a guy who wanted to meet up. he was mid 30s. i told him it was my 18th birthday. i felt an extreme compulsion to do this, to feel validated because i think of myself as a sexual object. he came to my house and he gave me weed, we smoked together (i much more than him). we were on the front porch, we kissed, he touched me above my clothes and exposed himself. i remember “waking up” in that moment from the compulsive thoughts, and telling him i changed my mind. he said he wouldn’t force it and left. the next day he showed up at my work. i had a full panic attack but somehow kept it together and turned my back. i realize i revictimized myself, but it was all my fault.
some background: i was sa’d ages 4-6 by a preschool teacher and there was nothing done about it, my parents had no idea.
around 13-16 i would go online in chats, tell men my real age and roleplay, sometimes sending photos and calling.
at 16 i also met up with a guy (late 20’s) and he said he wanted to get a hotel room. he finally picks me up and says we’re going to his house. by good grace he has to get gas, and got out of the car and left.
i have felt many more compulsions to do this and it sickness me. it doesn’t feel real, or that i am myself im these moments. i dont understand why i did this. the guilt and shame eat me daily.
i am in a healthy relationship, for almost 2 years now, they are the only one that knows about the csa, but nothing from my teens. i am ashamed, and i guess i’m asking for opinions? any feedback. just to let someone know.
Top Comment: Some people mature sexually a bit early, and as a child/teen, and sexual events as a child may affect that. But it is adults that should say no to you. Sadly, many people are too stupid+hormy to think about consequences or of others compassionately. Adults should protect children even against themselves. The best place you can start with when it comes to advice is to just go to therapy, don't offload your trauma to your partner too much, they're not a licenced therapist. (Unless they got that paper) And remember you've grown up more. Would you still do these things if you with your mature brain were to go back in time? If you still feel compelled to do things like you mentioned, even in a relationship, ask your therapist to help improve your self-control. The mind can still learn new things and if you don't really want to follow these impulses, you might be able to train yourself to resist them, maybe even use a Pavlov response to avoid acting on them.
When people call me “barely legal”
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I’m 21 (almost 22) and engaged to someone older than me. I’ve been “legal” for 3, almost 4, years now, so getting called this just comes off as patronizing and weird lol.
Top Comment: “Twenty one and a half! A half! Almost 21 and three quarters!” Just gonna go out on a limb here and suggest if she’s still stating her age in fractions of years to demonstrate how mature she is, that may be part of the problem. Jeez I gotta leave this sub. It’s getting to be a parody group.
Barely legal teens??
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8 months ago I caught my partner looking at porn on reddit. It absolutely gutted me. We had many talks and he promised no more. Well, we use to work together and he was caught (through his history and just knowing when we take our breaks) jerking off to reddit porn MINUTES after our lunch break...in the men's bathroom. I was even more destroyed by this. This was one of the last incidents before he took a long break.
Anyways its been months, he didn't look at any kind of porn for maybe 5 or 6 months. Then 3 weeks ago I found in his reddit "Teen beauties" and more nudes. Last time he was looking at "barely legal teens" or stuff along that line.
He looked at one video and said he did this to prove to himself how stupid he was prior? That just doesn't cut it for me, and even if i choose to believe that, why would he put himself in the way of temptation???
I can't stop thinking about the girls on here that he jerked off to and comparing my body. Its making me sick. I thought he was doing so good for half a year, but that one video is making me feel hopeless and hurting our trust all over again. Has anyone's partners actually kicked the habit?
Top Comment: I feel similar especially knowing the barely legal stuff now when we are out I’m looking at him constantly to see what age girls his looking at like is he predatory or not, I’m already 9 years younger than him I thought that would make me secure as we got older always being younger but now I worry men like him just want younger. I tell him every woman is going to age!
r/legalteens has 2.2 million followers
Main Post: r/legalteens has 2.2 million followers
Top Comment: you know what legal means right?
barely legal and welcome to japan tonight in sydney!!!
Main Post: barely legal and welcome to japan tonight in sydney!!!
Top Comment: First gig EVER to consist of songs from Is This It, Room On Fire, First Impressions, Angles, Comedown Machine, Future Present Past, AND The New Abnormal
r/barelylegal has been banned
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r/barelylegal's status was normal (295886 users) and has been banned
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This community has been banned. This subreddit was banned due to being unmoderated. . Banned . 6 days ago.
Top Comment: imagine thinking the problem was lack of moderation. reddit's always been a safe place for pedos.
The amount of men going after "barely legal" girls truly terrifies me
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My mom is a single parent and uses dating apps for both finding potential dates and also just to "people watch". We usually sit on the couch and entertain ourselves by looking at the guys using cheesy pick-up lines and stuff.
I wanted to join in on the fun and make an account to lurk as well so I downloaded Bumble and made a profile. I'm barely an adult and my profile says my age. It forced me to have a picture of me so I just chose one with no makeup, messy hair, pjs, etc. My bio read "don't match with me I rarely open this app". Basically I wanted to be as unappealing and invisible as possible.
We had some fun looking at the ridiculous things people were saying. I got over 200 likes in an hour and assumed it was bots (at least until the following things happened.) Everything was fine until I realized the default age settings were 18-80+. I noticed this because I was seeing 30+ year old men show up on my feed. I thought it was strange and had an impulsive idea to change the age filter to 50-80+ just to see if people were actually liking a profile wayyyy too young for them.
Well, they were. I instantly got 4 matches in a row ranging from 54-62 years of age. I felt sick and immediately unmatched them and never sent a single message. I later got 7 more when I was away from my phone, unmatched them all and set my age filter a lot lower.
I just feel sick that in a few hours over a dozen 50+ year old men decided it was perfectly fine to swipe right on a girl who was barely above the age of consent. And the amount of 30-50 year old men who liked me was far more.
Curiosity killed the cat, I suppose.
Top Comment: These comments are full of the type of guys that see absolutely no problem in older men fucking/persuing 18 year olds until...they themselves get older, have a daughter, raise her, care about her, see their 18 year old as the naive young adult they are and not an object, and oh shit, now a bunch of middle aged men wanting to fuck her doesnt seem right...